Turning 18 has opened my eyes into a new light. As moving out and being on my own is approaching I’m finally starting to understand adulthood and realizing a few funny things I wish I could have known sooner.
1. Growing up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. When we are younger all we think about is the next chapter and how we are going to do whatever we want, no one can stop us. Yes it’s true, we can do whatever we want, but that doesn’t mean we should. I told myself I was going to do everything I was finally legally able to and once I could, I didn’t. Which leads me into my next point.
2. Doing something in the moment, doesn’t always mean it stays in the moment. I have always been the biggest fan of doing spontaneous things and not caring what could happen. This can be good, but it can also be bad. Growing up is realizing that you can now be held accountable for your actions. Karma isn’t the only thing that can get you ya know.
3. You are what you eat. The way you treat your body now is going to effect you for the rest of your life. Your body is smarter than you think. It can handle an ice cream/pizza party splurge every now and then but not every. single. night. Getting old means a slowing metabolism and all those late night Oreos are going to start catching up with you faster than an Olympian on a treadmill. Feed your body fruits and veggies because even if they don’t taste like chocolate, you’ll be thanking me later.
4. Surrounding yourself with negativity will only make you negative. You can not can not can not expect to get anywhere or move forward in anyway with people holding you back. So many people are in our lives because we can’t bring ourselves to get rid of people who won’t let us get rid of them. The company you keep is a vision of you, choose wisely.
5. Don’t forget to live a little. Partying every now and then won’t kill you. (unless you decide to be crazy as shit than you’re on your own.) Take some time off of studying or focusing on one thing and just let loose. You are still young, but you won’t be for long. Enjoy it.
6. Take lots and lots of pictures. I know I’m the one that gets sooo annoyed when the girls in front of me at concerts won’t stop taking selfies but you have to get what I’m getting at. How many times do you just catch yourself scrolling thru your pictures and think “damn that was a great time” or “I wish I could relive that just one more time” I know I do alllll the time. Pictures really are with 1000383037293872920738202772 words. (bet you didn’t read that number huh?). Keep takin those selfies and videos even if someone wants to fight you at a concert okay!!!
7. Try. New. Things. This is a biggie. Try new foods. Try new music. Try new work outs. Try new clothes. Try new cities. Try new books. If someone’s suggests something and you’re hesitant, do it anyway. If someone else enjoys something or if something else just simply exists you should try it. It’s there for a reason people.
8. Start using your words. The amount of times I’ve been upset or angry with someone but they didn’t know why is endless. I keep to myself and don’t see a reason why someone can’t figure out what I’m feeling without me telling them. Writing helps feed the soul and clean thoughts but it doesn’t work as fast or as well as speaking. Take a situation by the balls and say “damn it bud I am very upset with you because __________” Stop expecting everyone to know what they did wrong because I guarantee they won’t figure it out (especially guys, am I right?)
9. Pray. Find God or whatever you believe in and pray. We have to realize God works in mysterious ways, but so do we. So often we pray when the bad times are surrounding us, but what about the good? Thank Him for the greatness He has brought and the love He has given unconditionally. Never forget that amazing feeling because no matter how high up we are or how low, we are always deserving of His love.
10. Remember to be a best friend. No matter who you decide to befriend, give it all you have. Friendships are something so sacred and something that should be held onto when you find the truest form. Don’t let yourself destroy one that deserves endless effort. Go on adventures and say yes to everything. Be the person they know they can turn to after a really bad week. Be a really really good listener or a strong shoulder to lean on. Take that 20 minute drive across town at midnight because they need to vent. Be their person and I promise they will be yours.
11. You have to do your part. Volunteer when you can. Visit a senior citizen home and talk all afternoon. Help out at church without being asked. Walk dogs at the shelter. Get food off the top shelf for someone who’s too short. Be a decent human being. I promise it’s not too hard.
12. It’s okay if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. We get out of high school where we have spent the last 4 years being preached to about the real world. The funny thing is, is that we know absolutely nothing about it when we graduate. We are expected to pick a path and follow it for the rest of our lives, but we don’t know where the path will lead because we don’t have any idea about anything!! High school is to “prepare you for adulthood”. Yeah well all I learned was how to do some math I can’t remember & write. Yes others probably got a better education from it than I seem to have gotten, but my point is that we can’t be expected to make a major life decision with little to no experience. Stop shoving all these movies and books about cultures, jobs, and “things that matter” down our throat. Take your time. Not everyone’s calling comes with a big arrow pointing to it saying “pick me”.
13. Take time to fully enjoy things. If something amazing happens bask in it as long as you can. Let that little sliver of happiness last for days, weeks, months on end because the world is cruel and if you can find something to hold onto, do it.
14. If you like something, wear it. Who gives a frick about someone else’s opinion on your outfit. I know I see someone wearing something I’ve never have and think, damn they rock that like I know I never could. Yes sometimes I’m like what are these people wearing, but if you are comfortable in it ROCK IT. I can not explain this any easier. It’s simple. You like it, WEAR IT. I promise you & your confidence will thank me later.
15. Get a hobby. I never ever really had something I craved doing. Ever. I found writing and even though I’ve taken time off my blog, I never stopped leaving my thoughts on paper. Finding something you can do to de-stress or just do because you love is SO IMPORTANT. Whether it’s writing, running, making art or playing some basketball. Find your thing and do it.
16. Be a role model. Everyone is watching. Always. Little kids see you and think, I want to be just like you when I grow up, no matter what you are doing. Don’t be the person who flaunts about their drug use or how you got away with stealing. We are the next generation of adults, but the generation behind us is still watching. Think wisely.
17. Don’t stay sad. Sadness is such a stupid, pointless feeling. Yes I understand sometimes we need to grieve or have a good cry, but don’t let it last forever. Let it out, give yourself a time period to be upset about something and then GET OVER IT. Life has a whole lot of ups and downs, you can’t let every single down get you crying. There is so much to live for like puppies, Indiana sunsets, warm weather, good food, happy friends. Take a lesson from Meredith & Christina, dance it out. You will be okay.
18. Time is your friend, not your enemy. I always think I don’t have enough time to do anything ever so I just don’t do it. The weird thing is that time is a human creation. We give ourselves 24 hours a day. We give ourselves an end. Spend each and everyday doing better and spend more time doing the impossible than worrying about the time we have left. Don’t sit around and wait for your time to run out, life isn’t a spectator sport. Get off the bench & get in the game.